 5 years of Doing, recovering from failed businessI have been trying to save my life for the past 5 years. My jamsport business didn’t work because I feared I couldn’t come up with better ideas for the business, I was in argument over money with my basketball coaches. I was too scared about my next step for basketball training and I simply think quit. The whole thing went down. Looking back, it was my mindset that got me into trouble. I do not have persistence overcome difficulty, I was thinking too much about money than serving my customer and coaches right. I couldn’t remember how I got into Tony Robbins maybe it’s the incomplete episode of videos at YouTube which I found really helpful. I tried a couple of the exercise and I decided that I need the whole set. It was sep 9, 2015 I bought them at amazon. I remembered during that time, I still have mini storage at Solo Sheung Wan. I was working for Fion’s cousin Adrian at that time with a part time income of 15,000 for 3 days. I that I changed the CD into a mp3 file and putting them into my phone and listen to it in the toilet during lunch. It was the rocking chair method. I closed my eyes imagine if I stayed the same what would it be like in 5, 10, 15, 20 years ( sounds horrible isn’t it ?). I imagined sitting in the same seat with white hair and fat, probably with less income. I imagined if this is what I gonna be, my wife and daughters would leave me. I imagined being like my dad. I broke into tears and pain motivated me. Then, what’s good is the reverse part. Now coming back from 20 years to present, I feel so young, so energetic. I have so much time to change. I was so motivated. I did this visualisation at the toilet of the digital agency I worked for...argh.... For the past years, I seek self-help. I m into motivation, finding ways to protect my heart and safeguard my soul. I put in mind only what’s needed. I scrapped anything else that brought me into negativity, so everything in my mind is all good and kind. When I act good and kind, good and kind things came back to me. So your thought becomes your reality. Can you understand how good things come to you? 5 years of Talking, affirming myself with confidenceI have been talking to myself for the last 5 year with this powerful statement “ i m good when I m committed to take action.” I can tell you why m I so sure of that... I found out at age 36 a thought existed inside myself always doubting “if I m good enough?” or “ I m not good enough” . Here is the method I learn: I go back to my memory and write down the many moments when I was good, there were tons. moments starting from primary school till my work life, there were so many like playing ping pong, high school studying at different grades, flirting with girls. I found many great moments I done, I just chose to remember the bad ones and forget the good ones. I won a couple of big new business the first year into marketing. I m really good. All these instances support my statement: “ I m good when I m committed to take action.” So why do we think we are not good enough? It is because bad things tend to make a bigger impact. It left a scar. We need to be trained to take failures positively. We often hear “ never give up”, “failure makes us better”, but we never believe them and we couldn’t embrace these philosophies, we never internalise them into our heart successfully. How do we internalise positive thoughts? How do we believe in it and act it out? We need to dig back into our past experience to find proof that god does leave a track of your empowering past. Name 5 instances that you felt fulfilled or achieved something. It could be a small contest, winning a sports match, a test you did really well even in grade 1. Did someone praise you are good over something you did well? Have you ever build anything together with your friends? Have you ever settle some troubles in your life? Think about that. I want you to count 10 of them, count to 20 if you could. These 10 instances just proved that you are good when you committed to it. “ I m not good enough” is wrong. I turn the negative thought into a positive one. I m good when I committed to take action. Once I installed this belief in my system, I take off and never look back. 5 year of Thinking, don't accept anything lessFor 30 years, I was thinking it is ok to accept something that isn’t your most desired. Why? I don’t want to accept it. I asked for the best in me. I want to excel! I was challenged by my coach Ms. Ma 3 weeks ago about waking up 5 am in the morning? She said that without purpose you can’t continue this effort for a long time. What’s your purpose to be a motivation speaker? Is it fear or passion? Do I feel passion to pick people up? I have passion to help kids, I wanna cry when I helped them because they remind me of my past. I was a younger brother and I have a thought since I was a kid that I should have a smaller share or something less than my brother. This thought has made me accept less than what I truly desired. I would accept small portion of food, a smaller birthday gift and later on in my life, I accepted something less than I desired and told myself it’s okay. That bring big consequences because not only I accept less from others, I accept less of myself and don’t demand so much of myself anymore. I convinced myself to accept mediocrity. That hurts and something is wrong. Deep in my heart I regretted that and I keep coming back, get up and fight again after several attempts as an entrepreneur, I still not sure what is going on inside me. I have a fighter attitude but I didn’t realise deep inside, I wanted to ask myself for my best. It was until coach Ma, she asked me about my purpose, deep inside I want more in life, I want my life to be bigger, much bigger. I want to put up a fight. I believe that I am whatever I want to be. I want to show adults or kids, everyone has the right to ask for the best, never settle for mediocrity. I want to show everyone, they have the right, to demand for their best no matter who they are. To conclude, your thought becomes your realityIf you look at the 3 topics in life - do speak and think. It is your thought that become reality. You accept what life bring to you, take it. Never accept anything less, strive for more. This is what the nature demands, trees grow big, they don’t grow smaller. May you learn all the secrets in life. Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
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   Day 100
: Miracle starts in the morning nov 18, 2019 Yesterday I was asked why I wake up 5 am in the morning? What’s your purpose to be a motivation speaker? Is it fear or passion? I feel passion to pick people up? I feel passion to help kids, I wanna cry when I help them, I m passionate about kids because I was scared to ask for the best and I know I m the best and I have the best. 5am Miracle morning Day 100: I was scared when I was young to ask for the best, I settle for less. I want to change that. I know everyone can be the best if they want to be. I want to show kids that they can ask for the best, nothing is impossible, and work their dreams. That’s what keep me waking up 5 am everyday, I want to prove I m the best. I m whatever I want to be. 為什麼我和余德淳一起5點起床 馬教練， 昨天你問我5點起床的意義是什麼？我今天5點想到了🤣 我小時候不敢要求最好的，常常接受次一等的東西，現在令我遺憾，懊悔。 我需要改變！ 5點鐘起來，令我肯定自己，我肯定我想的我可以達到，言出必行。因為我相信，我是最好的，在我裡面沒有不可能。我想告訴所有小朋友們：只要你想，沒有不可能“you can be the best you want to be”。這是我要做激勵演說家的動力及參加余德淳的課程的原因。 這是我一直堅持5點鐘起來，只要我想，沒有不可能，我要把自己最好的表現出來。 感謝你的提問，引導我思考。你的意思是沒有意義是不能走下去。我想你從幫助自卑的小朋友，從中得到意義。 我5點起床，一定可以走下去。因為我找到5點起來的意義。  Praying for her isn’t difficult. Wish she have new experience in bj! Life is about trying, learning and appreciating what you think that is not so pleasant...so you find something new everyday. Pray you could be happy living the present moment. You are healthy and capable and humble. I feel that you are constantly improving yourself. Being honest with yourself is the happiest. I thank god for giving you that power. I pray that claire could learn more. That’s my experience of her yesterday: Jealousy start to appear in claire. She called popo and ask her back early because she said olivia is taking popo too long and she didn’t like it. I told her if you want someone to love you. It isn’t to stop other to get close to her. It is you to love her so she knows you love her, she love you back. Tho she say it out loud she is jealous. The feeling isn’t so strong because i don’t recognise the feeling overwhelmed her mind. She forget very easily. Then, I taught her to cut mushroom. She was all by herself. Then I found out she cut it differently as I asked her to. she said it is better like that. I scold her for 3 reasons:
She so scared with her head down when I ask her to repeat what she done wrong. She say it her own words and is so precise. She is smart. She so bored and I suggest to go down to buy her some food to cheer her up. Then she said she want to walk more after buying food. We walk further to the park finding out the swing is too small for her. I told her she can’t watch YouTube too long and should figure out doing other stuff. Going outdoor and walk is a good one and I ask her to remember that At night, she taught me to play Siri, so it can recognise my voice only. I tell Siri: Siri I wanna die. Siri say would you need some counselling. Then I said, Siri call 911. She super scared and turn off Siri. She said this freak her out like a 8 of 10. Then she scaled I scold her for the mushroom cutting is 7 of 10 and popo yell at her is like a 5 or 6. Anyways. I enjoyed those moment and I prayed that you can absorb yourself in the moment with them. I wanna say I might be late for Olivia. But things is never too late. I pray you always enjoy your journey and god told me over many people: life is supposed to be fun even during difficult situations. May god look upon you ! Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/  I have been spending my last 4 years studying psychology and I just taken a course to learn about public speaking and be a motivation speaker. The mentor taught us 4 steps in structuring our presentation - feeling - observation - correction - remedy Short Speech: Better be Weak than AngryThe feeling of being angryThose who are angry and yelled. They appear to be strong and tough. It looks like they are always right and others are always wrong. It does appear this way, but is it really true? Anger is indeed AnxietyThese emotions reflect fear and anxiety, I feel that as if they were taken over by their emotions. I discovered they were not at peace, anxiety and fear were exaggerated in their mind. If an incident happen to them, they have also big emotions and likely to be hurt. It reminds of my friend when he was eating at a Chinese restaurant. He often feels that the waiter is not helping him with filling the tea bottle and the waiters ignored him purposely when he waved them for help. I can't confirmed if the waiters ignored him on purpose. He would often yell at them, he appears to be at a superior position. In fact it was insecurity that hurt them and caused the anger. He is so poorWe are often a victim of these angry howlers not once but for an extended period of time. You think you are sick, in fact the howler's life is much worse. The angrier he gets, the poorer he gets. The angrier they yell, the worse fear they have inside. What it means is every time they yell at you, they suffer a lot from their inner emotions. I wouldn't think they would particularly yelled at you and you alone, the list seems endless, so he must get 10 times more depressed than you. The worst thing is they don't even realize such fear, that's really the worst that could happen in such situation. You are the big winnerThe reality is "being calm and peaceful" carries so much more than anger alone. Those who needs treatment are the ones who exploded and it is NOT YOU! My conclusion is "Better Be Weak than Angry". If you know and you are already following the peaceful path. You deserve a round of applause, You are the winner! Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/  捱罵的人還比鬧人更過得好上了心理學4年，2015年開始的，最近是公開演講的培訓。題目是用4個段落去分享主題 1. 知覺 2. 省察 3. 治療 4. 痊癒 主題: “捱罵的人 還比鬧人 過得好”。 （知覺）鬧人就是強者？我覺得喜歡大聲鬧人嘅人，看似有權力，有氣勢，好似佢一定是對，其他人是錯的模樣。 （省察）鬧人很焦慮我察覺到佢地其實心情波幅大，應該係被當時的感覺支配，不受控制。我留意到佢地唔平靜，誇張地焦急😰同恐懼😱，事情發生在他們身上嘅時候，心情會一樣波幅，內心都容易受傷🤕️。好似：我爸爸在茶樓會鬧伙計，鬧佢地唔幫他沖茶，看到他也扮看不見🙈（可能真，可能假，我不知道）。看似在高的地位罵人，其實內心不安，覺得不被尊重，沒有地位。他受傷了。 （治療）佢慘過你我地可能不止一次，更可能長期被呢d人傷害。其實佢比你慘，佢越激動鬧，佢恐懼都越多。代表佢每次傷害你時，佢也傷害自己(再加上佢應該都會鬧其他人）。最慘係佢唔知自己脆弱，係佢最脆弱的地方。 （痊癒）你係幸運大贏家成件事嘅事實係- 平靜嘅你比激動衝動嘅人更強大，需要治療嘅係暴躁鬧人那位仁兄，唔係你。 我嘅結論係：捱罵的人還比鬧人更過得好。如果你明白，也行出來的話，你係幸運大贏家，恭喜恭喜🎈 Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/ Stop bullying yourself -accepting you as you What happen when people say “You are no good!” ? When people tell me “You are no good!”I would tell myself “That’s irrelevant, fxck that!” (I wouldn’t recommend you to say it in front of their face and I am presenting it in a way so it is easily understood and make you see the point, I really refrain to use this language). To say it in a more constructive way and that’s the exact wording I use: “Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.” I wouldn’t allow myself to be inferior to anyone and I figure out ways on how to improve myself for the next time. That’s the self-talk I do everyday to protect my inner self and to cheer myself up for positive action. Overtime, it will become your habit and you build a strong sense of self. That’s how I create my self-worth, so that I am happy to accept me as I am. I DO NOT have doubts. What I am trying to say is… What people say to you doesn’t really matter…everyone has something different to say… most of time bad things about you What matter is how you convert that into your energy. How you take it and use it. Don’t waste it. So when people say “You are no good!” Be strong, fxck that (in a good way)! What people say really couldn’t hurt you so much until you want it to. So what people say couldn’t really kill you if you build strong statements that you believe like: “Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.” But what kills you…when You say to yourself “ I’ m no good!”It kills you because sometimes you didn’t realize you say it to yourself because FEAR appears in many different ways
So how do you see yourself better?
Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become like anybody.
Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/  Day 539: Disaster after quitting masturbationOn oct 4 Friday, my family went on a trip to taiwan. That day was a day of social unrest. The law of refraining mask was deployed. ( 蒙面法😷） That same day I was defeated by the doorbell of 141. I remember I was thinking about it the whole Friday afternoon, I was on the website 141. I have eliminated masturbation but then I got into the much worse doorbell situation. I felt disappointed, self-doubt, self defeating thoughts came to my mind. Yes, the doorbell is not a good message I sent to myself. The message is ugly, it is guilt, it is no self-restraint. The question is what I decide to do about it? or I let me haunt myself for who I m? Can I be a good person anymore? Am I not good enough? These are the thoughts I have inside my mind. mean the doorbell absolutely feels good but just for that moment. I was left with guilt for a long time just for the 5 min of pleasure. Is it worth it ? What I decided to do? I decided that I seek a long term solution that is to love my wife and develop a long term & strong relationship that I could rely on. The lessons I learned is that I can use defeat and failure to fill myself and to haunt myself with negativity. OR to channel “the situation” towards positivity, think about a solution, think about the improvement I can make, so I can only become stronger after. I have decided to go for long term solution, develop a good relationship, I no longer have to punish myself with the inner talk. The next thing is just to take action. It is a great lesson learned. I realized that life is fascinating. When you think you become a better you, something bad can happen. When I thought I quit Masturbation, I attached to something much worse... So what would you choose? To comeback even stronger & to make a even stronger decision? I got rid of masturbation. BUT...it brings me to a even worse and evil situation - the doorbell.My question is m I better off going back to masturbation? Or I take it as a great challenge to improve myself even better? I experienced the pleasure, it is tempting to go back again & again. I already have so much fun only with my imagination. For me to become a greater self, I need to take it on positively and not beating up on myself. Seeing things as a challenge rather than a defeat can help you to contribute more to the society and building a better version of you. Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become like anybody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/ Renting a car in Chiangmai is Cheap & Easy!           Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/ Day 525: buying a house with $0 savings & 100% bank money, 400 sq ft. before VS after (Sep 24,2019)9/24/2019
The ability to increase rent is through value creation. As the property size getting smaller and smaller, the room for using our creativity is also becoming smaller. I see opportunity in Mui Wo property because the price is cheaper, the size is bigger which allows creativity to run much wilder than the tiny 400 sq ft in Hong Kong Island. This is just a small demonstration. I 'm looking for an entire village house 2100 sq ft to go through this change therefore increasing value for the property as well as for the tenant who lives inside it
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Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Motivation blog: http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert.yau If you agree what i am talking about. please like below.
These few days I was thinking if I can skip a day or 2, or skip an item for a day or 2, e.g how about exercise other time, not in the weekend. I m taking care of my kids. How does that sound?
It sounds all logical. It is all the seemingly logical and sensible “explanation” that we get out of our commitments. it is often these excuses or poor habit that kept someone being successful. I don’t want no part of that. I m successful, man! I haven’t hold on to something for longer than a year. That might be the reason I m not successful. Recently I did much better. I finish 100 blogs but it took 9 months more than I planned. We often overestimate ourselves short term and underestimate ourselves long term. By the way, I m making purchase of my second property in Mui Wo no matter what. I m working on it. 
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