Day 542: Do you accept you? (Oct 11, 2019)

Stop bullying yourself -accepting you as you

What happen when people say “You are no good!” ?
What happen when you say to yourself “I am no good!” ?

Which one is worse?

When people tell me “You are no good!”

I would tell myself “That’s irrelevant, fxck that!” (I wouldn’t recommend you to say it in front of their face and I am presenting it in a way so it is easily understood and make you see the point, I really refrain to use this language).

​To say it in a more constructive way and that’s the exact wording I use:
“Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.” I wouldn’t allow myself to be inferior to anyone and I figure out ways on how to improve myself for the next time.
That’s the self-talk I do everyday to protect my inner self and to cheer myself up for positive action.
Overtime, it will become your habit and you build a strong sense of self.
That’s how I create my self-worth, so that I am happy to accept me as I am. I DO NOT have doubts.

What I am trying to say is…
What people say to you doesn’t really matter…everyone has something different to say… most of time bad things about you
What matter is how you convert that into your energy.
How you take it and use it. Don’t waste it.
 
So when people say “You are no good!”
Be strong, fxck that (in a good way)!
What people say really couldn’t hurt you so much until you want it to.
So what people say couldn’t really kill you if you build strong statements that you believe like:

​“Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.”

But what kills you…when You say to yourself “ I’ m no good!”

It kills you because sometimes you didn’t realize you say it to yourself because FEAR appears in many different ways   

1. I can’t do it, I’m not sure
2. I’m not ready yet. I need more preparation.
3. I’m smart, so I won’t expose my weakness ( in fact you are so weak to hide weakness)
4. I don’t want to risk my job, my reputation, my name, my money
5. I just skip this 1 thing, it doesn’t look like a big matter ( imagine 1 day you skip 1 thing, you skip 365 things a year)
6. I rather save more time for myself.
7. I don’t want to be too busy.
8. Someone yelled at me. I better do less (the less you do, the smaller you become)
9. I never done it before.
10. I don’t get paid to do more, I rather do less.
11. I don’t want to act stupid.

​So how do you see yourself better?

• Acknowledge your fear, try to act upon it
• Spend time to reflect on yourself – switch your phone on selfie video mode, talk to yourself
• Write to yourself
• 20 min meditation ( headspace app can help), I use it everyday
• Ask what do you resist? Do you resist Rich people, powerful people?
• think about breakthroughs, resist being the same everyday, be progressive –  ( as small as run an extra 1km, say something in a meeting), celebrate small success can bring great power to life!

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Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become like anybody.
​Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker 
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