 I have been spending my last 4 years studying psychology and I just taken a course to learn about public speaking and be a motivation speaker. The mentor taught us 4 steps in structuring our presentation - feeling - observation - correction - remedy Short Speech: Better be Weak than AngryThe feeling of being angryThose who are angry and yelled. They appear to be strong and tough. It looks like they are always right and others are always wrong. It does appear this way, but is it really true? Anger is indeed AnxietyThese emotions reflect fear and anxiety, I feel that as if they were taken over by their emotions. I discovered they were not at peace, anxiety and fear were exaggerated in their mind. If an incident happen to them, they have also big emotions and likely to be hurt. It reminds of my friend when he was eating at a Chinese restaurant. He often feels that the waiter is not helping him with filling the tea bottle and the waiters ignored him purposely when he waved them for help. I can't confirmed if the waiters ignored him on purpose. He would often yell at them, he appears to be at a superior position. In fact it was insecurity that hurt them and caused the anger. He is so poorWe are often a victim of these angry howlers not once but for an extended period of time. You think you are sick, in fact the howler's life is much worse. The angrier he gets, the poorer he gets. The angrier they yell, the worse fear they have inside. What it means is every time they yell at you, they suffer a lot from their inner emotions. I wouldn't think they would particularly yelled at you and you alone, the list seems endless, so he must get 10 times more depressed than you. The worst thing is they don't even realize such fear, that's really the worst that could happen in such situation. You are the big winnerThe reality is "being calm and peaceful" carries so much more than anger alone. Those who needs treatment are the ones who exploded and it is NOT YOU! My conclusion is "Better Be Weak than Angry". If you know and you are already following the peaceful path. You deserve a round of applause, You are the winner! Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/
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 捱罵的人還比鬧人更過得好上了心理學4年，2015年開始的，最近是公開演講的培訓。題目是用4個段落去分享主題 1. 知覺 2. 省察 3. 治療 4. 痊癒 主題: “捱罵的人 還比鬧人 過得好”。 （知覺）鬧人就是強者？我覺得喜歡大聲鬧人嘅人，看似有權力，有氣勢，好似佢一定是對，其他人是錯的模樣。 （省察）鬧人很焦慮我察覺到佢地其實心情波幅大，應該係被當時的感覺支配，不受控制。我留意到佢地唔平靜，誇張地焦急😰同恐懼😱，事情發生在他們身上嘅時候，心情會一樣波幅，內心都容易受傷🤕️。好似：我爸爸在茶樓會鬧伙計，鬧佢地唔幫他沖茶，看到他也扮看不見🙈（可能真，可能假，我不知道）。看似在高的地位罵人，其實內心不安，覺得不被尊重，沒有地位。他受傷了。 （治療）佢慘過你我地可能不止一次，更可能長期被呢d人傷害。其實佢比你慘，佢越激動鬧，佢恐懼都越多。代表佢每次傷害你時，佢也傷害自己(再加上佢應該都會鬧其他人）。最慘係佢唔知自己脆弱，係佢最脆弱的地方。 （痊癒）你係幸運大贏家成件事嘅事實係- 平靜嘅你比激動衝動嘅人更強大，需要治療嘅係暴躁鬧人那位仁兄，唔係你。 我嘅結論係：捱罵的人還比鬧人更過得好。如果你明白，也行出來的話，你係幸運大贏家，恭喜恭喜🎈 Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become a nobody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/ Stop bullying yourself -accepting you as you What happen when people say “You are no good!” ? When people tell me “You are no good!”I would tell myself “That’s irrelevant, fxck that!” (I wouldn’t recommend you to say it in front of their face and I am presenting it in a way so it is easily understood and make you see the point, I really refrain to use this language). To say it in a more constructive way and that’s the exact wording I use: “Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.” I wouldn’t allow myself to be inferior to anyone and I figure out ways on how to improve myself for the next time. That’s the self-talk I do everyday to protect my inner self and to cheer myself up for positive action. Overtime, it will become your habit and you build a strong sense of self. That’s how I create my self-worth, so that I am happy to accept me as I am. I DO NOT have doubts. What I am trying to say is… What people say to you doesn’t really matter…everyone has something different to say… most of time bad things about you What matter is how you convert that into your energy. How you take it and use it. Don’t waste it. So when people say “You are no good!” Be strong, fxck that (in a good way)! What people say really couldn’t hurt you so much until you want it to. So what people say couldn’t really kill you if you build strong statements that you believe like: “Challenge me today, I come back stronger tomorrow.” But what kills you…when You say to yourself “ I’ m no good!”It kills you because sometimes you didn’t realize you say it to yourself because FEAR appears in many different ways
So how do you see yourself better?
Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become like anybody.
Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker Go here to find out more about my motivation http://www.daddayout.com Face: https://www.facebook.com/yauherbert Insta: https://www.instagram.com/herbert_yau_day_out/  Day 539: Disaster after quitting masturbationOn oct 4 Friday, my family went on a trip to taiwan. That day was a day of social unrest. The law of refraining mask was deployed. ( 蒙面法😷） That same day I was defeated by the doorbell of 141. I remember I was thinking about it the whole Friday afternoon, I was on the website 141. I have eliminated masturbation but then I got into the much worse doorbell situation. I felt disappointed, self-doubt, self defeating thoughts came to my mind. Yes, the doorbell is not a good message I sent to myself. The message is ugly, it is guilt, it is no self-restraint. The question is what I decide to do about it? or I let me haunt myself for who I m? Can I be a good person anymore? Am I not good enough? These are the thoughts I have inside my mind. mean the doorbell absolutely feels good but just for that moment. I was left with guilt for a long time just for the 5 min of pleasure. Is it worth it ? What I decided to do? I decided that I seek a long term solution that is to love my wife and develop a long term & strong relationship that I could rely on. The lessons I learned is that I can use defeat and failure to fill myself and to haunt myself with negativity. OR to channel “the situation” towards positivity, think about a solution, think about the improvement I can make, so I can only become stronger after. I have decided to go for long term solution, develop a good relationship, I no longer have to punish myself with the inner talk. The next thing is just to take action. It is a great lesson learned. I realized that life is fascinating. When you think you become a better you, something bad can happen. When I thought I quit Masturbation, I attached to something much worse... So what would you choose? To comeback even stronger & to make a even stronger decision? I got rid of masturbation. BUT...it brings me to a even worse and evil situation - the doorbell.My question is m I better off going back to masturbation? Or I take it as a great challenge to improve myself even better? I experienced the pleasure, it is tempting to go back again & again. I already have so much fun only with my imagination. For me to become a greater self, I need to take it on positively and not beating up on myself. Seeing things as a challenge rather than a defeat can help you to contribute more to the society and building a better version of you. Think yourself to win. If you act like everybody. You become like anybody. Herbert Yau, property entrepreneur and a motivation speaker
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