Only good memory can erase bad memory and I spent three years to wash away my wife's pain bit by bit. and in exchange, I have gained some good memories myself!
3 years ago when I was trying to develop my own business, I destroyed the relationship with my wife.
During that time I didn't have the capacity and the mentality to make my business a success. After I failed (failure is only temporary in my own understanding, as long as I try, failure is not permanent) , I was completely selfish about money. I made paying back the debt as an excuse, and I told her I can only afford $15,000 for home expenses. I found the job of $50,000, and this has broken her heart for almost 3 years afterwards.
The reason being, she was always trying to support me, but I wasn't gracious and I thought it was the way it should be. When I'm back into the workforce, I only thought about myself and never really care about the financial needs to raise our family. She was completely heart-broken.
Spending three years is worth it - replacing happy memory into her mental hard disk
she broke down and all her behaviour was in complete opposite of how she used to be. This was a wake up call because I have made her behaved selfishly.
three years of continuous giving seems to yield no improvement, but to erase a persons painful memory, how could it be done in a very short time? It seems endless but I feel her pain so I ducked down my head in and keep on doing. I pray to God, and I get support from my brothers, that make me staying on the positive!
I remember it was my birthday February 11 2018, and incident happened. Because I going to work on Feb 14, The Valentine's Day, so I decided to do something different, why don't I treat her to dinner during my birthday? Why does it have to be someone treat me for a dinner on my birthday? And I invited my mother-in-law, too.
Let's make it a little different.
Then I discover changes inside me slowly. I feel that asking people to treat you to dinner on her birthday it's a bit too calculating. It's like saying when it's your birthday I pay for your dinner and now it's your turn to pay back. Why not use it as a chance to make everyone happy doing your birthday?
and on that day during Valentine's Day I invited her to a movie premiere.
We then had a Valentine's Day dinner, as I don't want to spend too much money. And God intervene, HE wants me to show her what my love is meant to be, and to try to draw her drawing. And not to overspend over some gifts.
my wife didn't express to me whether she like it or not. In my heart I've put a lot of time and effort into the drawing. And when someone pays an effort for another, the other one should know.
The next morning after Valentine's Day, we woke up early and we "hehehaha" that was exciting, I bet you know how to break the code.
The sun shines on those who give with happiness
I realise that things have changed because I was proactively involved in removing our painful memories, and replace it bit by bit with good ones, to heal her scar.
to give with happiness and empathy and from action to change those painful experiences. I was in doubt and always wanted to give it up and my inner self always ask me to change back to the old comfortable self.
and of course seeing other happy makes us happy, that's in everyone's nature. and if you are discovered the naked truth of happiness, the happiness of others is the true happiness your been looking for many years.
用3年付出是值得的 - 把快樂回憶換進她記憶體
我記得是在2018年，生日2月11號 - 事情開始改變。因為我要在14號情人節上班，我把生日11號傳統反過來請她食生日飯慶祝，還邀請了外母。
在年初一她還很高興地跟我說笑。如果你有留意到我之前的文章 - 關於小朋友是否喜歡你。我提到身體上的接觸，正代表小朋友是否喜歡你。
昨晚她騎到我的身上用pat pat 壓在我身上玩耍是三年來前所未有發生的事。我想我的神終於聽到我的禱告並向我伸出醫治的手叫他的能力得以顯明。我感謝神。
A project about being a property entrepreneur and motivation speaker. How I work from a job transforming into a business. I went through 3 business failures, broken relationship and on Apr 24, 2019. I invested my first property with 100% mortgage